Saying Goodbye to the Abuse Victim Identity


Saying goodbye in an open letter using self-reflective writing helps you acknowledge the ill-treatment endured, process the consequences, and free yourself of the abuse victim’s identity. This is my open goodbye letter.

Dear Abuse Victim,

Unfortunately, you suffered ill-treatment as a child and grew up in a dysfunctional family without the parental and spiritual guidance to live an abundant life.

The father who was supposed to provide and protect violated you, and the mother who was supposed to nurture and love neglected you.

As a young adult, you suffered domestic violence at the hands of your husband. The physical, mental, and emotional abuse you endured is unspeakable and caused you to run and live in fear of an abuser.

The most significant loss was your two children; you carried the burden of guilt and shame for failing them for twenty-plus years, but the blame was not yours alone.

Despite this ill-treatment, you found the assurance of God’s rescuing grace and transforming love.

The Lord rescued you from the darkness, removed the burdens of guilt and shame, healed your wounds, and gave you the Holy Spirit of peace.

It’s time to say goodbye to the abuse victim identity, the narrative that keeps you trapped in a cycle of defeat and oppression.

Walk by faith in Christ and share your testimony to bring hope and comfort to other oppressed individuals. It will show how the Lord rescues you from the darkness and heal a broken heart.

Walking in the light of Christ, you learned to let go of the anger, bitterness, and hatred for past abusers.

You don’t need to continue living as a victim.

God gave you victory in Christ Jesus. Go forward and proclaim the glorious things the Lord has done for you. You have been healed and given a new life in Christ.

Good Bye Abuse Victim, L.M. Carleton

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L.M. Carleton

Hi! I'm Linda, an abuse survivor rescued by grace. I write to raise awareness and encourage abuse victims to grow in wisdom and restore their lives. I conquered adversity by faith and worked caring for the elderly and physically and mentally challenged for twenty-plus years.

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