How Men Show They Are in Love

How Men Show They Are in Love – a follow-up post, in conclusion, to How to Love a Man Without Being Sexual.

Over the years, our father unknowingly taught his daughters that men show their love for a woman by having sexual intercourse with her. Having witnessed inappropriate sexual contact repeatedly, I developed an abnormal mindset that carried over into adulthood.

I believed the way to win a man’s heart was through sexual pleasure. That sexually pleasing him made him fall in love. To me, this was the reality of how men were in general. I was unaware that a man would not fall in love with or show his love for a woman by having sexual intercourse with her.

This dysfunctional mindset caused me to seek a man’s love in the wrong way for years. I didn’t feel desired, connected to, or loved by a man unless we had sexual intercourse together. To me, when a man wanted to have sexual intercourse with me, it meant that he loved me.

This abnormal mindset didn’t serve me well in life. It took more than twenty years to understand how men show they are in love with a woman.

Learning How Men Show They Are in Love

Asking the question “why do guys run away and hide?” lead me on a journey to understand men, dating, and relationships. Then began to understand men how men show they are in love after finding Joe Amoia at

Joe is a straightforward kind of guy, I relate to his expressive style and the straight-up advice he shares in his videos. I needed someone to tell me straight up, no bullshit, this is how it is with men, dating, and relationships.

Here listen to – The Top 5 Ways A Guy Shows You He Loves You

Take Some Mirror Time

Joe was a blessing, and his quote “Take Some Mirror Time” was a godsend. His quote encouraged me to reflect on past events. This exercise helped me to recognize and understand how events from childhood affected me in adult life.

So began the journey of healing from child abuse and domestic violence. The calling of walking in the light and embracing healing in the Lord became evident. I decided to take his “Mirror Time” advice to a new level and write a Memoir.

God always sends the right people into my life to help me. Joe is one of those individuals. I praise the Lord for his love, guidance, and support for life.

I cried tears of great pain when this abnormal mindset finally cleared up. It broke my heart to know of the wasted years feeling unloved by men. But, like Joe always says, “it’s not a mistake if you learned something from it. Think of it as an expensive learning lesson”. I couldn’t agree more!

Thank You, Joe

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