Revised on November 24, 2024
You can grasp the truth about why abuse happens to overcome the torment or remain trapped in darkness with fear. – Abuse scars a victim’s heart and oppresses the mind. Downtrodden in spirit, victims have difficulty letting go of the story.
The story of abuse becomes a record, playing over and over again in the recesses of the mind. Victims recount what happened and hold onto the pain and suffering caused by others.
Victims remain trapped in darkness long after the affliction has ended.
When you grasp the truth about why abuse happens, you end the mental torment and start healing the deep scars. And the way you perceive your story and what you believe to be true is an essential part of that process.
My Story of Why Abuse Happens
My story, soon to be a memoir, is about a young girl who becomes trapped in darkness by fear.
As a child, she suffers from neglect, child abuse, and child sexual abuse. The ill-treatment experienced throughout childhood affects her mindset.
As a teenager, she has restricted beliefs regarding relationships, love, sexual behavior, and adult life. This mentality affects her patterns of thinking, choices, and decisions.
As a young woman, she experiences domestic violence at the hands of her husband for three and one-half years.
The abuse she endures causes more pain and anguish. She tries her best to survive. But ultimately, she runs in fear for her life and loses everything, including her children.
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The Truth Sets You Free
I grew up in hostile conditions and became a survivor who knew how to endure pain and suffering. I lived in constant confusion, always in fight or flight mode, and believed I had to battle the conflict alone.
I was a victim of abuse and violence, and those beliefs encompassed my mind and guided my actions for a long time.
I continued living as a victim and making poor life choices until one day; the Lord revealed the truth while I was sitting on the bathroom floor.
He illuminated the darkness encompassing my life.
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I’ll never forget that day.
I just broke free of another unhealthy relationship after twenty-plus years. My new apartment was very charming. I loved the new maroon futon and matching curtains. I was happy for the first time in a long time.
Then disaster struck like a violent tidal wave.
Within a short time, I started dating, became pregnant, and encountered an estranged, abusive husband on a dating website. I was devastated at the thought of raising another child at forty-six years old.
I didn’t have the strength to fight anymore.
I prayed the unthinkable.
“Please God, take this child from me.”
Shortly after, I found myself on the bathroom floor. I could see the fetus amongst the blood. The life I prayed for God to take lay in my hands.
I was exceedingly ashamed, and grief-struck my heart like never before.
How could she have asked God to do that?
How could I be so selfish?
I cried uncontrollably in sorrow for asking God.
Then, I began seeking God for the why answers.
The Truth About Why Abuse Happens
God, in His mercy, granted His understanding of His divine truth.
God replayed the forgotten moments of a broken and afflicted childhood. He brought to mind the choices and decisions made along the way and exposed all the secrets buried beneath the surface.
God enlightened the dark path traveled for years. He revealed the sin that affected my life and reminded me of His rescuing grace and transforming love.
His truth set me free!
To understand why abuse happens, you must have FAITH in the Lord. The Lord is the only way to find the truth, freedom, and abundant life.
I was unknowingly a victim of SIN who walked in darkness and believed I could survive and overcome in my power and strength.
I never comprehended the truth during those years of darkness, for one can only understand reality by the grace of God.
It’s a gift freely given, God’s gift to his loved child.
I spent years living in darkness and not knowing or understanding the Word of God. I sought to live life on my terms and do things my way.
My earthly and heavenly father let me. They allowed me to utilize the freedom of choice or free will.
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Perception of the Truth
As a young adult, I didn’t understand life well. I was naive and lacked the spiritual guidance needed for an abundant life.
The choices and decisions did not align with God’s Word or will, and the consequences were mine to endure.
You can replay the victim’s story and remain trapped or grasp the truth of God’s word and be set free. I chose to seek and understand the truth of God’s Word.
I want to listen to and obey the Word of God, stop doing things my way, and do things God’s way. I quit walking in darkness with sin and started to walk in the light of Christ by faith.
I was no longer a victim of abuse, and my story changed. By the grace of God, I became a survivor by grace and a warrior by faith.
The devil can mask sin with many lies, but the truth shall always prevail. To grasp the reality, you must be willing to seek, listen to and obey the Word of God.
I learned to fall to my knees in awe of God and his rescuing grace. Today, I understand that I am nothing without God.
I pray you come to know the rescuing grace of God and His peace that surpasses all understanding.
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