How Men Show They Are in Love – a follow-up post, in conclusion, to “How to Love a Man Without Being Sexual.“
Over the years, our father unknowingly taught his daughters that men show their love for a woman by having sexual relations with her.
Having witnessed inappropriate sexual contact repeatedly, I developed an abnormal mindset that carried over into adulthood.
I believed the way to win a man’s heart was through sexual pleasure. That sexually pleasing him made him fall in love.
To me, this was the reality of how men were in general. I was unaware that a man would not fall in love with or show his love for a woman by having sexual intercourse with her.
This dysfunctional mindset caused me to seek a man’s love in the wrong way for years. I didn’t feel desired, connected to, or loved by a man unless we had sexual relations together. To me, when a man wanted to have sexual relations with me, it meant that he loved me.
This abnormal mindset didn’t serve me well in life. It took more than twenty years to understand how men show they are in love with a woman.
Learning How Men Show They Are in Love
Asking the question, “Why do guys run away and hide?” led me on a journey to understand men, dating, and relationships. Then, I began to understand how men show love after finding Joe Amoia at gpsforlove.com (now at thelovementors.com).
Joe is a straightforward guy. I relate to his expressive style and the advice he shares in his videos. I needed someone to tell me straight up, no bullshit, how it is with men, dating, and relationships.
Here, listen to – The Top 5 Ways A Guy Shows You He Loves You
Take Some Mirror Time
Joe was a blessing, and his quote, “Take Some Mirror Time,” was a godsend. His quote encouraged me to reflect on past events. This exercise helped me to recognize and understand how events from childhood affected me in my adult life.
So began the journey of healing from child abuse and domestic violence. The calling of walking in the light and embracing healing in the Lord became evident. I decided to take his “Mirror Time” advice to a new level and write a Memoir.
God always sends the right people into my life to help me. Joe is one of those individuals. I praise the Lord for his love, guidance, and support for life.
I cried tears of great pain. It broke my heart to think of the wasted years of feeling unloved by men. But, as Joe always says, “It’s not a mistake if you learn something from it. Think of it as an expensive learning lesson.” I couldn’t agree more!
Thank You, Joe