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It’s possible to love a man without being sexual. Say what? I grappled with this problem for over twenty years and discovered the answer. And no, it’s not through his stomach, so hold the biscuits and gravy.

How to Love a Man Without Being Sexual – a blog post to answer my daughter’s comment on Why Doesn’t My Mom Love Me.” She was interested to know how to love a man without being sexual.

The Lie Woman Believe

The biggest lie we women believe is that being sexual and physically intimate with a man equals love to a man.

In believing this lie, we ultimately place our value and worth in our bodies. We crave feelings, and pleasing our man to the fullest extent is a constant desire.

Then to make matters worse, the media feeds into our sexual desires with ways to become more desirable to men. To knock a man’s socks off using makeup, sexy undergarments, and sexy lingerie (I have a humorous story about sexy lingerie, perhaps I’ll be courageous and share it one day). And don’t forget the jewelry and high heel shoes.

Shopping Trip!

The problem is even though this can be fun for a moment.

It does not equal love to a man. It’s sex.

More importantly.

Your value as a woman to a real man is “not” in your body.

Your value as a woman to a real man is “found” in your loving heart.

What is Love to a Man

I believed this lie for years because “no one told me the truth.”

I lacked the knowledge necessary to discern genuine love. I was clueless that men and women think, experience, and express feelings differently. I had no idea a man could have sex with you and not be in love with you. I believed sexual pleasure was love.

WOW!

REALLY!

Yup!

The truth hurts, and then it helps you heal.

The moment I began to understand the truth, I stopped placing value in my body and having casual sex with men who couldn’t cherish me.

How I learn to Love a Man Without Being Sexual

The go-to guy!

Joe Amoia at gpsforlove.com

I was an absolute mess and a lady in distress when I found Joe’s website and video blogs several years ago. Joe has helped me understand men, dating, and relationships. And that is the key to finding out how to love a man without being sexual.

We must begin by learning to understand men, dating, and relationships. Not all relationship advice is worth listing to or following. Joe’s advice works.

I’m proof!

Read the post “How Men Show They Are in Love.”

The best advice I can give is to visit Joe’s website, signup for his newsletter, and view his video blogs. Get involved with his community and learn how to love a man without being sexual.

I learned love is an action with an ability to carry through continuously. Love is in the moments you share. It’s building a stable relationship on trust and loving devotion to helping one another through life’s struggles.

Love grows over time and continues to develop and mature with age. It’s always given away to others, not obtained from another person. And when a person doesn’t cherish and value themselves and others, they won’t have the ability to give or receive love.

How Men Show They Are in Love – a follow-up post, in conclusion, to How to Love a Man Without Being Sexual.

Over the years, our father unknowingly taught his daughters that men show their love for a woman by having sexual intercourse with her. Having witnessed inappropriate sexual contact repeatedly, I developed an abnormal mindset that carried over into adulthood.

I believed the way to win a man’s heart was through sexual pleasure. That sexually pleasing him made him fall in love. To me, this was the reality of how men were in general. I was unaware that a man would not fall in love with or show his love for a woman by having sexual intercourse with her.

This dysfunctional mindset caused me to seek a man’s love in the wrong way for years. I didn’t feel desired, connected to, or loved by a man unless we had sexual intercourse together. To me, when a man wanted to have sexual intercourse with me, it meant that he loved me.

This abnormal mindset didn’t serve me well in life. It took more than twenty years to understand how men show they are in love with a woman.

Learning How Men Show They Are in Love

Asking the question “why do guys run away and hide?” lead me on a journey to understand men, dating, and relationships. Then began to understand men how men show they are in love after finding Joe Amoia at gpsforlove.com.

Joe is a straightforward kind of guy, I relate to his expressive style and the straight-up advice he shares in his videos. I needed someone to tell me straight up, no bullshit, this is how it is with men, dating, and relationships.

Here listen to – The Top 5 Ways A Guy Shows You He Loves You

Take Some Mirror Time

Joe was a blessing, and his quote “Take Some Mirror Time” was a godsend. His quote encouraged me to reflect on past events. This exercise helped me to recognize and understand how events from childhood affected me in adult life.

So began the journey of healing from child abuse and domestic violence. The calling of walking in the light and embracing healing in the Lord became evident. I decided to take his “Mirror Time” advice to a new level and write a Memoir.

God always sends the right people into my life to help me. Joe is one of those individuals. I praise the Lord for his love, guidance, and support for life.

I cried tears of great pain when this abnormal mindset finally cleared up. It broke my heart to know of the wasted years feeling unloved by men. But, like Joe always says, “it’s not a mistake if you learned something from it. Think of it as an expensive learning lesson”. I couldn’t agree more!

Thank You, Joe