The Courage to Tell Your Abuse Story

No one wants you to tell your story of abuse.

The perpetrator inflicts anguish and fears silencing you—the burdens of guilt and shame bridal at your tong. Even family members urge, “don’t tell anyone.”

Yet concealing the truth, the secrets of abuse hinders your personal growth and spiritual development. By staying silent, your physical and mental health suffers, and you surrender your voice, your power of choice.

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Humbling Lesson Learned About Being an Abuse Victim

I wrote this blog post in 2015. The humbling lessons learned are still fresh and relevant today. And it’s been edited to reflect personal growth.

Dear Reader,

I began writing after an emotional awakening from years of unacknowledged abuse. I was a victim of child abuse, child sexual abuse, and domestic violence. My thinking was impaired, the inner spirit in turmoil and heart scared.

I started blogging to be listened to and, more importantly, understood. I desperately wanted someone to care about my sufferings. And someone did.

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The Danger of Keeping Family Secrets

After years of suffering, I learned, keeping secrets from the public eye was a grave weakness. That secrets prevent you from moving forward in life.

My Father spoke in riddles, making you think one minute and confusing you the next.

Like the baffling statement “You can’t start out in life with a broken garden hoe” made days before my wedding. It caused confusion for twenty-eight years.

His famous remark;

don’t tell anyone what goes on in this house.

Keeping family secrets, I lived in the darkness with fear and carried heavy burdens. At forty-six, a battered heart split open, and sinister secrets and burning emotional pain spilled out.

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